Publicity is against Emos and their cites

Author: admin | Category: Psychology

Several days ago on our cite we got a letter with ask of help. We appear the letter text, without any names as the author wishes:

“A young girl has recently told me a secret: she is absorbed in Emo’s world. She is sure: she is Emo. Her words are fool of emotions and fear, she says about mental overstrain, strong emotional exhaustion etc.

She is fascinated by Emo music, reads about Emo in the Internet, in magazines, she created even her own Emo cite. The girl has just begun learning at school. She considers herself a lesbian; she tells very dramatic about her feeling of strong emotional pane. She is highly prospered, lives with her parents, who don’t understand what happens to the daughter. I’m their family friend and the one grown up to whom she can entrust.

I please you about some advice to help this young girl. May be, there are any especial questions to ask her? How can we switch her over on mental standard? What have I pay attention to that she says?
Thank you to pay me your time and attention.”

We have asked the Doctor of Philosophy and Psychology Joseph M Carver to answer our reader’s questions. Here is what he said:

“Teenagers’ period is very difficult for many boys and girls. They go through self-definition stage, caparisoning themselves with their parents and coevals. The teenagers look for support of the individuality by different coevals’ groups, which are bounded at secondary school, for example gothic, sport or skateboards amateurs, etc.

Emo is an essence, which exaggerates alienation feelings and emotional experience of many teenagers. Besides it supports teenagers’ confusion in the question about sexual belonging, coevals’ and grown up’s relations, and also depression. Teenager, who feels loneliness, deep depression, goes to influence of Gothic or Emo subculture, meeting here another teenagers, also confused, alienated and in mental experience. Unfortunately those support which as if is giving by such groups, makes longer mental sufferings in deed, stimulating the following alienation.

Quite possible, the girl is under pressure. I’d like to recommend you as a grown up, who can support pure girl, to pay especial attention to her oppressed condition, emotional pane and other symptoms of depression. Focusing only on Emos is not a good idea, because group accentuates on alienation, but not on return to normal healthy way of life. If grown ups drink because of depression and focusing on drinking they can loose the main thing which helps.

Talk to her – the adults have the same symptoms: they avoid fantasy, feel confusion, have troubles with concentration and etc. Tell how adults behavior in such times (they ask for advise, try to avoid new troubles). Mention that 15% of pupils from her class can’t finish school because their emotional troubles put them to another side: drugs, alcohol, pregnancy, “passions” and etc. Try to convince the girl to ask for help her parents, they help with treatment and solving the problem. This period in teenager’s life is very difficult, she needs support and admonition of her family, but not deranged advises from the Internet. She needn’t her own Emo cite, it’s unnecessary.”

P.S. If you have something to add to Doctor’s advice you can give your comments. It’s opened for experiment. Try to speak out with restraint, please.